Rite of Passage for mothers-to-be or Blessingway / Belly Blessing
Many women in our society have a ‘baby shower’ in anticipation of their baby’s birth. However, some mothers-to-be prefer the idea of a more spiritual ritual, which is focused on providing positive energies to a woman on her birthing journey, rather than the gift-giving and sometimes commercialised baby shower.
A Blessingway ritual, which is also known as a Mother Blessing or Belly Blessing, is an alternative spiritual ceremony and is originally based on a tradition from the Navajo Native American tribe. A rite of passage, the Blessingway ‘blesses the way’ for a pregnant woman to prepare for childbirth, and to feel supported, nurtured and loved. It provides an opportunity for friends of the mum-to-be to express their love: love for the woman approaching birth, for the upcoming arrival, and for each person who attends the Blessingway.
Guests arriving at a sacred Blessingway ceremony are either smudged with sage or anointed with essential oils to feel comfortable, centred and ready to participate in a sacred ceremony. The guests form a circle to create support for the mother-to-be, who sits in a special chair. When conducting a Blessingway I begin with an intention and let everyone know what to expect so they feel at ease. I explain the tradition and the reason behind the ritual so that we can stay on purpose throughout.
We help the mother-to-be to let go of any negative beliefs or fears she may have so that she can embrace the blessings, prayers, and honour we will give to her during the ceremony. This part of the event may include a ceremonial washing of the hands to signify washing away fears. Activities during a Blessingway vary depending on the woman’s preferences. They may include the guests making a necklace from beads that each person brings along. The necklace is intended for the mother-to-be to focus on during her birthing journey. Guests also bring a candle, which is lit from the pregnant woman’s candle, as a blessing, wish, hope or prayer is said. Sometimes women share poems, songs, and encouraging stories, and conduct a ritual with a red thread that signifies the connection between the women present at the ceremony.
In acknowledgment of her commitment and the energy involved in being a mother, the mum-to-be is pampered and adorned during the ceremony. She may receive a massage or facial, for example. It’s an opportunity for her to receive love and honour, to fill up with positive energy as she prepares for birth.
Gifts are not a focal point of a Blessingway, but sometimes guests may bring food, such as a casserole for the freezer, to help the woman in the early days after the birth.
The Blessingway ends with women sharing food provided by each guest, and is intended to bring everyone back into a social space. Women who experience a Blessingway feel connected to the other women in their life and to their ancestral wisdom. They also experience the ceremony as an empowering event that helps them to prepare mentally, emotionally and spiritually for their transition into motherhood or the arrival of another baby.
Based on a Navajo Native American tradition, the Blessingway ritual, which is also known as a Mumma blessing or belly blessing, is a rite of passage. The intention of the ceremony is to ‘bless the way’ for a pregnant woman to prepare for birth. A Blessingway replaces the baby shower, which for some people is commercialised and gift-focused, whereas a Blessingway is spiritual and focused on providing support, nurturing and love for a mum-to-be.
Regardless of the activities, the intention is to provide an opportunity for significant women in the life of the mum-to-be to show their love for her, and her baby. For her to feel loved, nurtured and filled with positive energy as she nears the birth and the arrival of her baby. After the ceremony comes to an end, the women eat food that they each take along to share. Although gifts are not usually brought to the ceremony, the exception may be casseroles that can be put in the freezer to help the new mum during the early days when she may feel drained and lacking in energy for anything other than the essentials of providing for a new baby.
Women who participate in Blessingways leave feeling connected to the women who attend. Depending on the wishes of the mother-to-be, guests may be notified of her going into labour so that they can light a candle or perform another agreed ritual. This helps to ensure a continuation of the sharing of positive energy and connecting to ancestral wisdom even as the birthing process begins.
$40 per person for 2-hour ceremony
minumum 6 people
(depending on location)
Rite of Passage for Brides-to-be or Sacred Hen’s Nights
Looking for an alternative to going out to a pub or nightclub to celebrate getting married or coupled? Many women are now choosing to have a “Girl’s Night In” or Sacred Hen’s Night instead. I conduct this Rite of Passage for you or your friend in the comfort and privacy of your own home or chosen location. We begin by setting an intention for the evening and let each woman take her time sharing hopes and wishes for the bride-to-be one at a time. A flower crown is woven with the flowers from the gardens of the women attending and there are hand, foot and scalp massages. We do a water blessing and I can conduct mini tarot, palm and tea-leaf readings. If appropriate I can share a wealth of Sacred Sex tips and tricks 😉 Creating a safe, sacred space for open sharing and crafting a sisterhood for the women is my speciality.
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